What do I do next?

Aug 5, 2013 by

Are you ever unsure of what to do next?

What’s next in your life?  What’s the next move to make on a particular project?

Do you ever ask yourself, what should I be doing?

If you are looking at multiple options or multiple choices and not sure which way to go or which one to pick, always pick the scary one.

Stop and look at what is before you and what you are afraid to do.  That is your path.  That is the right choice.

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Doing the scary thing leads us down the path of discovery and opens the world to us.  It shows us exactly what we are capable of and reveals how truly un-scary the scary thing really is.  That perceived roadblock of fear is really the trail marker showing us the way we should be going.  It is when we push through that fear that we make giant strides forward and gain the understanding of how brave we are and how fear doesn’t matter.

I’ve been on a big building and moving forward phase in my life lately and a huge part of that moving forward and building a new future is pushing through that fear.  Not knowing where to go next can be frustrating and seemingly paralyzing.  An overzealous fear of failure can and often does halt us in our tracks from even beginning.  It is when we push through those fears that we realize we had nothing to fear at all and our world is open to a new future with new possibilities.

If you are stuck or struggling this week with not knowing what to do next try this.  Break down the challenge you are tackling into discrete steps you need to take.  Make the tasks small enough that you can understand them and begin working on them.  Then scroll through your list and find the one that scares you the most.  This shouldn’t be hard.  It should either jump out at you or give you a weird feeling in your stomach.  Which one of those items causes you fear or discomfort?  That is your number one task.  Don’t do anything else until you’ve started and completed that one task.

That will kick start the rest of your list because once you’ve conquered that scary task, you will realize it wasn’t that scary and the rest of the tasks will be easy.  You just have to start.  As the quote goes, “Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage.  Just 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery.”

You just need to begin.  You just need to pick that scary task and go at it with all you’ve got.  Once you start the scary feelings will run and hide when met with your courage and bravery.

Your Truly Simple Action for this week is to pick the scary thing on your list.  Be bold.  Be Brave.

Ben…

TSA = Truly Simple Actions The goal of the TSA project is to improve your life and help make this world a better place, one simple action at a time.  Take time this week to do this one simple thing. Previous TSA’s:

 

 

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Giving up Fear…Update

Apr 6, 2011 by

About a month ago I gave up fear for lent.  I’m not Catholic, but I like the idea of lent and each year I usually give something up.  In years past its usually been soda, sugar, TV etc.  This year I decided to go a different route.

This year I decided to give up fear.

I recently left my “normal” job to set out on my own and start some businesses on my own.  This has been one of the most exciting and scary times of my life.  So many questions, doubts, and fears were creeping up.

  • How am I going to get these things off the ground?
  • Why won’t this website work correctly!?!?
  • How in the world do you do accounting?
  • etc

I’ve gone through all those and many many more, but ever since I made the decision to give up fear, they haven’t stopped me.

I know it sounds silly, but simply the decision to not operate under fear has let me move forward past all of them knowing full well that I will figure it out as I go and it will all be OK.  Whenever I run into something on my to do list that I’m afraid of, I remember that for 40 days, I have no fear.

And it works

I simply act as if I’m not afraid and move forward and I ALWAYS find that at the end of the task I was afraid of, that it wasn’t that hard, or that scary at all.

So who knows, maybe I’ll give up fear even after lent.  So far I’m loving life without it.

Ben…

 

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Giving up fear for lent

Mar 13, 2011 by

This year I’m giving up fear for lent.

I’m not Catholic, but I like the idea of lent.  Each year my wife and I usually give up some of the same things as in years past; soda, TV etc.

This year I thought more about it as I already don’t drink soda, and the TV is always a nice thing to do without to reset for a while, but I was searching for something else.  Something bigger…

So I’m giving up fear…

 

I told my wife this, and she chuckled, “but you aren’t afraid of anything!”   And thats true for a lot of things, but its not 100% accurate.

In 4 days I’ll be without a job.  I’ve been winding down my work with a great company, and as of the 15th I’ll be unemployed.  Well unemployed in the technical sense.   This time I’ve decided to take this opportunity to start my own businesses.  Yes, plural; multiple businesses.  And that is really scary.

I can easily overwhelm myself with the amount of details and minutia that comes along with choosing that path.  But for the next 40 days I’m giving all of that up.

I won’t let fear paralyze my progress.

I won’t let fear stop me from pursuing this dream.

I won’t let fear tell me that I don’t know what I’m doing.

I won’t let fear stop me.

And the thing is, as I write these words and look at the list above its clear to me that its all bullsh*t.   I know I’ll be fine. In fact I know I’ll be much better than fine.  Without fear I’ll move forward.  Without fear I’ll figure it out.  I always do.

Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.
Japanese Proverb

So the next 40 days are all mine to live without fear.

Ben…

What is fear holding you back from today?  What would happen if you just gave up that fear and pushed forward?


 

 

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