Tell Someone You Love Them

Feb 18, 2013 by

It doesn’t get more simple than this.

Everyone loves to hear this and we need to say it more often.

So say it.  Email it.  Text it.  Write it out in a letter.  Hire a skywriter if you can afford it.

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I know we just got done with Valentines day and I hope you took the time to tell your loved ones that you do in fact love them in addition to the flowers, chocolates and romantic dates.  I had big plans to take my wife out to a fun date night, but instead my body decided to get sick and we stayed home recovering.  The good news is that when you buy flowers and chocolates after February 14th they are significantly discounted ;-) .

But as my Valentines day plans were thwarted, it should not be the only day we say and show our love toward those significant in our lives.  So do it again today.  Do it all week.  Pick out one person that is special to you  each day and write them a little note to let them know what they mean to you and that you are thinking about them.  Write a sticky note and put it on their computer.  Put it on Facebook for all to see.  Share something special with them in your own special way that is meaningful to you both.  Just take the time to do it.

My friend recently started a mass texting thread with myself and 9 other friends just saying he loved us.  It turned into a wonderful conversation of love and mutual admiration between the best group of friends ever.

So tell your friends.  Tell your family.  Tell your spouse.

If you are looking for inspiration, here’s a quick note I wrote to my beautiful wife.  Feel free to steal it.

You are amazing and I love you very much.  You are the most wonderful thing to ever happen to me.  If anyone ever asks me the secret to being happily married for as long as we have, I tell them it’s simple.  Marry someone who is smarter than you…and being gorgeous doesn’t hurt either.  You are so smart and so beautiful and I am the luckiest guy in the world to be near you.  I look forward to our future with a giant smile on my face knowing that I’ll be with you.  I love you.

Nothing will make you swell up with a great feeling like hearing that you are loved from a loved one.  Give that feeling to others this week and I bet you will feel a little something from doing it as well.

Ben…

Truly Simple Actions The goal of the TSA project is to improve your life and help make this world a better place, one simple action at a time.  Take time this week to do this one simple thing.

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TSA#43 – Write Your Story

Sep 10, 2012 by

Here comes some cliche advice, but stick with me here.

You are the author of your own story.

I’m sure you’ve heard that or something like it before.  I don’t think I made it up, but what does it really mean?

The basic cliche is that you are the sole author of your life.  You create your life.  You decide what your life is going to be like.   Of course there are extra characters that come into your story and influence it and you.  There are extraneous situations you find yourself in that effect where you go and what you do.  At the end of the day however, it is you who decides how you handle these things.  It is you who chooses how to react to things out of your control.  You continue to write your own story whether you feel like you are in control or not.

Now cliche aside, how can get something practical out of this metaphor right now.

Stuck in a rut?  Write your story.

No really, write it down.  Every day, write down what your main character did that day.  You are the main character in case you forgot.  Make it brief.  Bullet points are all that is needed here.  Write it down for 30 days and see where your story is going.  Grab a notebook or open up a Word doc and just jot it down each day. You can even use a nice little service like Oh Life to help you journal the highlights.

It may look something like this:

Monday May 3rd

  • Went to work
  • Came home and walked the dog
  • Made dinner
  • Watched TV
  • Went to bed

Tuesday May 4th

  • Went to work
  • Grabbed some food on the way home
  • Played on the internet for a few hours
  • Went to bed
Wednesday May 5th
  • Went to work
  • Went out to dinner
  • Watched a stupid movie with friends
  • Went to bed
You get the idea.  Now after 30 days, review the script of your life.   Is it what you want to be doing?  Are you living the life you want to be living?  Are you shocked at the repetitive nature of your routine?  Are you creating the life you want?  Would you even read your life story?
Hopefully the answer is yes, but I’ve given some monotonous examples for a reason.  Sometimes we get so caught up in the routine, that the routine becomes invisible and we don’t see it.  We can’t see it.  The routine is what we are calling a life.  We get up, we do A, then B, then come home and do C and D and we go to bed to rinse and repeat tomorrow.

Now here comes the twist and how we fix the rut.

Write your new story.  I don’t mean go out and automatically just live the life of your dreams, but if you can do that, then yes, do that.  I mean write down your new story.  Take a new piece of paper and write down what you want to do.  Write down some things you think would be fun to try or accomplish.  Write down some places you want to go.  Write down some new activities you think you might enjoy to replace some of the boring routine ones on your list.  Write down what your days should look like and then start living off that list.  Start crossing those things off as you do them and keep adding new ones onto the list.  Call it a bucket list, call it a wish list, call it whatever you want, but seriously spend some time thinking about the things you want to accomplish and the things you want to do, and the places you want to go and the experiences you want to have.  Then just start doing them.
Some of the items may be big huge plans or ideas that may takes some planning, so start taking bite size chunks off of those ideas and work toward them.  Some right require a simple Google search to find when you could take that next white water rafting trip.  Make plans.  Come up with ideas.  Write yourself a new story and go make it happen.

Ben…

TSA = Truly Simple Actions The goal of the TSA project is to improve your life and help make this world a better place, one simple action at a time.  Take time this week to do this one simple thing.

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TSA #8 – Tell someone you love them

Jan 9, 2012 by

I’m going to try to post these on Monday’s so you have the entire week to think about and hopefully practice these Truly Simple Actions.

For this week, its a tried a true piece of advice that you’ve probably heard many times before, but we still don’t do it enough.  So this week, simply tell someone that you love them.  That’s it.

Call your mother or father.  Text your brother or sister.  Email an old friend.  Just tell them you love them and really appreciate them being in your life.  That is all that is required.

Today is my 13 year anniversary.  I try to tell my wife how much I love her, but I could always do it more.  It is one of those things that you never tire of hearing when told to you and it always makes the other person feel good.

Make someone feel good this week.  Tell them you love them.

Ben…

TSA = Truly Simple Actions
The goal of the TSA project is to improve your life and help make this world a better place, one simple action at a time.

Previous TSA’s:
TSA#1 - Buy a meal for someone who needs it
TSA#2 - Go do something fun
TSA#3 - Enough with the plastic bottles
TSA#4 - Learn something new
TSA#5 - Celebrate Christmas
TSA#6 - Start off the new year with a clean room
TSA#7 – Improve 

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I’m very lucky

Jan 9, 2012 by

Today I’ve been married 13 wonderful years to my beautiful wife.

13 is my lucky number today.  I love you Chara.

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